Hopefully you’ve been implementing some of my tips from part 1…if you missed that click here to catch up!
I wanted to make this a ‘2 parter’ to make sure you take it all in…and start to take action!
So here goes numbers 5-8:
5) Take responsibility for yourself and ACTION – “Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Anthony Robbins
Stop waiting for ‘if’ and ‘when’ because TRUST me, you’ll never get there with that mindset, you just won’t.
The bottom line is we all know that doing certain things will make us feel better but for some reason can’t push ourselves to do it….think going to the gym, putting down the doughnut, not having that last drink, not smoking that cigarette.
More often than not it’s because fear is getting in our way or we ‘don’t feel like it’ well…news flash…you’re never going to!
It takes 21 days to form a habit and 30 to solidify one but you have to push through a whole lotta pain to get to the point that something becomes habit. It’s uncomfortable to start with but then one day, it’s a habit!
Mel Robbin’s 5 second rule changed my life (go buy her book now!) We’re back to neuroplasticity again and creating new neural pathways! 100% go buy her book but the fundamentals of the 5 second rule are that when you can feel your brain starting to wane and it’s about to stop you from doing something you know that you should then count backwards 5-4-3-2-1 and physically MOVE!
Just go do it. You’ll thank yourself.
I’ve used it time and time again to form new habits…Hello Bikram Yoga!
6) CHOOSE your tribe wisely – You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn
Do you spend time with people who make you want to be better, drive you on, support you, lift you up?
Or, are you clinging on to relationships that don’t serve you anymore, people who make you feel bad about yourself or drag you down?
Really think about this one because it’s one of the harder ones.
I struggled to let go of a lot of old friendships because I realised how bad they were making me feel.
Write down 5 people you wish you could spend more time with and put in more effort to actually do it!
Work out who those people are that make you feel bad, and consciously spend less time with them! You don’t have to go completely cold turkey cut people out of your life, just focus your time and energy more on the people that make you feel good and less on the ones that don’t.
It is easier said than done, especially when it’s family members, but although your tribe may decrease in size it will increase in value 10 fold as you’ll have more time to spend with the people that matter most!
7) Don’t compare yourself to others – “Comparison is the death of joy.” – Mark Twain
Social Media….ahhhh social media….I get it. I know how easy it is to look at someone’s Instagram photos and Facebook posts and take it as REAL. Majority of the time it’s NOT!
You must bear that in mind.
That one amazing Insta shot with the flattering filter is probably the result of HOURS and hundreds of images trying to get the right one, that couple that look like they have the BEST relationship may actually be falling apart behind the camera. People show you what they WANT to show you, a highly filtered version of their lives.
IT is not reality so don’t compare yourself to it, it’s all BS!
One thing I did that made a HUGE difference is using the ‘unfollow’ tool on Facebook.
There were quite a few people who would consistently make me feel bad about myself, their life was always ‘look at all the fun I’m having’ or ‘look how wonderful my wonderful life is’ and when you’re in the doldrums yourself that is no fun!
These people weren’t people who made me feel good, lifted me up etc BUT the likelihood of bumping into them was high so after the cull of people I COULD delete was the magic unfollow cull.
So now, instead of my own social media feeds making me feel bad it’s full of people who make me happy, pages and people that inspire me…I now use Facebook as a force for good ha! Go forth and unfollow!
8) Know that happiness is a CHOICE – “People are just as happy as they make up their mind to be” – Abraham Lincoln
That’s right, you can choose to be happy!
It is the intention and desire to not remain where you are, recognising and challenging the unhappy thoughts.
Next time you’re down or frustrated think to yourself, ‘What could I do differently that might actually change this situation?’
‘How could I think differently about this situation?’
Then use all of the above tips to help you do it! Practice makes perfect!
I really hope this helps you, remember action is key and it takes 21 days to form a habit so stick with it!
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It’s what I use every single day and makes the biggest difference!
Please do let me know how you get on!
Fran Excell, Mindset & Productivity Coach – Helping Business Owners Overcome Self Sabotage & Get More Done In Less Time at www.franexcell.com
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