Happy Monday to you, or happy any day that you’re listening!
I wanted to talk about something that I have found to be absolutely transformative in my life and creating changes.
It’s things that are very very easily overlooked but can really make a huge difference in how you feel in, and about yourself!
The reason i’m wanting to talk about it today is because i’ve had a really big focus on it this year and the difference has been huge.
These things become even more important if you’re going through a turbulent time, which also makes them easy to ignore or forget about so it does require a little bit of effort on your part.
But i’m going to help you make it as easy as possible.
Now, what are these THINGS I keep talking about?
That will be TOTALLY individual to you.
But it’s the things that make you feel GOOD.
Not just good in general but good about your SELF.
The things that make you feel good in your own skin.
The things that lead to more confidence.
The things that lead to you having a different posture.
The things that make you trust yourself more.
You see the knock on effects? They’re huge. And all the while you’re rewiring these feelings of self trust, self compassion, self confidence to be your new normal, and trust me when I say feeling this way spills out onto everything that you do.
2023 is the year of me. But that’s just because it’s fun to say and reminds me of the focus. It’s about habits.
It’s how you talk to yourself and how you treat yourself and what you know you want and need to feel your best.
For me it’s things like making sure I get to the gym and spa. Firstly because as soon as I drive into the entrance and see the trees I physically feel my nervous system shift.
When I was really going through it before and during my break up it really was my sanctuary. It was my escape. It was where I could focus on me and have the space that I needed to look after myself.
I make sure I get there 3-4 days per week.
Perhaps you have somewhere like that? Somewhere where you just feel safe and calm and in control. Knowing what you need to do to take care of yourself? It might be a friends house, with family, it might be a place in the woods that you walk to, somewhere with a view that calms you right down?
It can be as simple as a favourite cafe. You FEEL the physical shift when you’re there. Notice that and notice how you feel about yourself in those moments.
Another one for me is getting out on the river on my paddle board. I find being in and around water incredibly regulating and I also feel good that i’m being active.
Funnily enough, because it’s the polar opposite energy, is making sure i’m in London 2-3 days per week. For me it reminds me who I am. It reminds me of the opportunity and vibrancy that is available to me. It means i’m spending time with people, new friends and old. It makes me feel like me.
But I definitely start to tip over the edge after a few days without my green spaces.
I’ve talked about this before but little things like making sure I look after my skin and moisturise every day makes me feel amazing. Using the posh stuff…just because it’s Wednesday!
In the year of me that’s where my money goes too. So every time I buy something I ask myself, is this going to make me feel good?
Put simply it’s looking after yourself and allowing yourself to know you’re worth the effort!
For me at the moment it’s all about me time, exercise, relaxation and regulation, skincare,
But it’s not about how you look…it’s about how you FEEL…which incidentally changes the way you look anyway ha! I’ve had a fair few people tell me now that i’ve got more of a ‘glow’ about me…and i’m not mad about it!
I can’t tell you what a huge effect that has on everything else. Including how you show up with other people.
Another thing i’ve been doing, which I kind of touched on in a recent episode, is allowing myself to be more in the moment. Take things day by day. This has allowed me to open myself up to some things that I would never have been able to do before. And i’m not gonna lie…i’m having a lot of fun with it!
Less in my head, more in my body.
So have a think about what some of the little things might be for you.
It really doesn’t matter how small. Practice saying ‘will this make me feel good’ before doing or buying things.
See how much it changes how you feel about yourself and your outlook.
Fran Excell, Success Mindset Mentor at www.franexcell.com – Helping Business Owners & Executives Overcome Stress & Self Sabotage so they can get back their time, get off the emotional rollercoaster and feel more in control.
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