In the most non patronising way possible, I want to get a message across today.
I’m proud of you.
I’m proud of me.
For so many things.
Sometimes you have to take stock of what we’re all working against to really acknowledge that we’re doing a great bloomin job…even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
There are so many phrases that teach us from little kids to be modest. To not shout about our achievements. It’s undesirable to think, let alone say, that we’re good.
Good people, good at our jobs, good looking, a catch, good at something.
We’re taught to play it down.
Don’t you dare think or believe you’re good enough for what you want. It’s unattractive.
Don’t be arrogant.
Don’t talk about the things you’re good at.
Don’t think you’re funny.
Essentially, don’t like yourself too much…or at all!
This is by proxy what we’re taught.
No wonder we have generations of people who can’t acknowledge their achievements or worth!
But this also serves to make damn sure we don’t notice the little things that we do that are amazing.
So we’re going to change that today because you deserve it.
I’m proud of you for getting up this morning.
I’m proud of you for making hard decisions.
I’m proud of you for every time you’ve pushed yourself beyond your comfort zone.
I’m proud of you for every time you’ve done something you know is good for you.
I’m proud of you for every time you haven’t but you’ve noticed you WANT to!
I’m proud of you for every hard thing you’ve done.
I’m proud of you for facing things you didn’t want to.
I’m proud of you for every time you’ve let yourself rest.
I’m proud of you for every day you’ve kept going.
I’m proud of you for trying!
Some days…that’s more than enough!
I added a little prompt into my daily journaling for the non dear diary type (as a recap, go back to episode one but every day it’s writing down 3 things you’re grateful for, 3 good things that happened that day, something you’re looking forward to tomorrow, I also added a challenge that you overcame or learned a lesson from, and nice things you did for other people – As a reminder what this is doing is training your neural pathways to see these things as a default every day. To see the positive every day. To see your progress every day. It’s magic.)
The prompt I’ve added is ‘what am I proud of today’. Hopefully you can see exactly why this would be so valuable.
When we think about increasing our self worth, which SO many of us want to, it’s actually a lot easier than you think.
It takes a little time, effort and energy to rewire those neural pathways but it’s beyond worth it.
It starts with learning for it to be safe to acknowledge our good points, the good things we’ve done and the ways we’re growing.
Learning that it is absolutely ok to acknowledge and celebrate yourself and your wins, no matter how big or small they are.
The last 12 months has been the biggest rollercoaster for me and I am SO beyond proud of myself.
I’ve made heart wrenching decisions. I’ve made decisions that are the right thing for the short term and the long term, even though they were all painful and I could have easily looked at myself as a failure in SO many different areas. I’ve done what’s right for me and prioritised my health, wellbeing and peace every day.
I can look back on this time in years to come with tremendous pride.
This attitude is beyond helpful in tough times, it’s something I’ve worked on and cultivated and allowed myself to learn over time.
I’ve had confronting things to unlearn.
It’s not been easy every step of the way but I can safely say I’m proud of myself and I really am my own best friend inside my own head.
The way I talk to myself in my own head now vs most of my life is unrecognisable and that’s all available to you.
It starts with allowing yourself to acknowledge your smallest of wins every single day.
Learning to see yourself in a new positive light, every day.
Learning that the smallest of steps are still steps in the right direction, and that if you take a step back, there will STILL be another step forward.
Learning to be KIND to yourself.
Learning to have compassion for yourself.
Learning to understand that YOUR opinion of you is the most important thing and something you have control over. What other people think of you is up to them.
Understanding that it’s all possible and that it’s possible for you!
I’m proud of you.
I’m proud of me.
You deserve to feel proud of yourself!
Fran Excell, Success Mindset Mentor at www.franexcell.com – Helping Business Owners & Executives Overcome Stress & Self Sabotage so they can get back their time, get off the emotional rollercoaster and feel more in control.
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