Change CAN be fast and long lasting.
A lot of real, lasting change takes time. It takes effort and energy. Deeply ingrained patterns and neural pathways take time to rewire.
Consistency is key.
HOWEVER…change can ALSO be very fast and long lasting.
This is the idea that you push yourself and give yourself the total opposite experience than your brain or nervous system might expect and you instantly expand.
You don’t ping back.
It’s similar when you learn something new that blows a belief out the water.
The issue is the pull to NOT push yourself outside your comfort zone can be SO strong that we don’t do it.
I feel in a very privileged position to have known this information for a long time.
I definitely used to be the err on the side of caution type. I used to be the ‘I could never do that type’.
Until I knew and really understood that I didn’t have to be.
That we are all absolutely capable of change.
As you’ll probably know I’ve been giving myself PLENTY of these experiences lately and if you’re on my email list you’ve been getting my regular updates and encouragement to have a think about what you might want to do to push yourself out of the ‘I could never do that’ camp.
I have never been great at travel. I’d never travelled on a plane anywhere by myself.
I’d never booked an entire trip of many moving pieces by myself.
I consider myself an incredibly capable person but this has always been a bit of a blocker for me.
And now I’m planning my next adventure.
I said before I left that I was really excited to see who I was going to be when I got back.
This is exactly what I meant.
Instead of worrying or feeling like I couldn’t do anything I had the attitude that I could overcome anything that felt uncomfortable and it would only be uncomfortable short term.
I took the trip of an absolute lifetime and I did it myself.
I had an amazing opportunity land in my lap and initially brushed it off as wishful thinking.
Until it wasn’t.
I flew 9 hours long haul to Nairobi by myself.
A friend picked me up a the airport so I felt safe (obviously super important with solo travel, make sure you do your due diligence and have back up plans)
I then hand fed giraffes.
I touched orphaned baby elephants.
I went to lovely bars and restaurants.
I organised, booked and went on a 3 day group safari to the Masai Mara by myself with total strangers. Travelling hours away from anyone and anything I knew and I saw THE most incredible things.
It’s been a lifelong dream as an animal fanatic to go on safari and it didn’t disappoint.
I noticed I had zero desire to be on social media and allowed myself to really be in the present.
I watched a family of baboons from my balcony on the first day and a family of giraffes the next.
It was baby season out there so I saw baby Zebras, hippos, elephants, giraffes, I saw hyenas, buffalo, cheetahs, leopards, lions and so much more all in their natural habitat. I had a baby chameleon cling to my finger.
In fact, now I mention it and I’m back, I really should spam some of these things to my instagram stories. Ha!
And talking of Lions, our truck got stuck in a hole and in order to get it out, which took some serious manpower, we had to get out and walk across the brush to another truck. We had eyes on two male lions…and then there was one!
I asked for adventure and boy did I get it. How many people can say they saw Lions in the wild on foot ha!
I walked up the Ngong hills. Bought beads from the Masai people. Went to busy bustling markets. I went all over Nairobi in ubers by myself.
Trust me when I say the Ubers in Nairobi are not the same as the UK.
It was a huge culture shock at times.
It was hugely confronting at times due to the extreme wealth and most extreme poverty I’ve seen.
My privilege smacked me right in the face on so many occasions.
I was absolutely humbled on many more.
I am a different person.
I’m even more resilient than ever before.
If I had stopped at ‘I could never do that’ I would have denied myself this entire experience and I genuinely feel like a totally new human being.
I feel capable of anything.
I feel energised.
It was exactly the shift I was looking for.
And what I really want you to take from this is that I am absolutely no different to you.
It’s just a series of choices we make and one step at a time in the direction of them.
Allowing ourselves to shift and change and form new neural pathways in the process.
This change was FAST, but made with INTENTION.
And I already know it will be long lasting, I feel it in my bones.
Yes, there are always things that might require a little longer but my goodness once you start providing yourself, your brain and your nervous system what’s possible the opportunities become endless.
More resilience, confidence, bravery, steadfastness, stability, boundaries, optimism even in the face of adversity.
It’s all waiting.
I’m not saying you need to take a huge solo trip half way across the world, but what could you do today to prove that it’s possible?
One of my favourite things to remind people is who you are today isn’t who you have to be tomorrow.
So what do you wanna do? And who do you wanna be? Who do you need to be and what needs to happen to make it happen?
Fran Excell, Success Mindset Mentor at www.franexcell.com – Helping Business Owners & Executives Overcome Stress & Self Sabotage so they can get back their time, get off the emotional rollercoaster and feel more in control.
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